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Données personnelles Lily Marietta (Lily Marietta) "Etta" Holm 

• Le surnom est Etta.
• Elle est née le 23 mai 1884 dans Vasa, Sweden.
• Elle est décédée le 17 avril 1916 dans Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA, elle avait 31 ans.
• Les parents biologiques sont Oscar Ferd. Gustav Holm et Carrie Andersson
• Cette information a été mise à jour pour la dernière fois le 10 juin 2014.

Famille de Lily Marietta (Lily Marietta) "Etta" Holm

Elle est mariée avec Franklin Preble Pilcher.Source 1

2 ADDR
3 STAE Minnesota
3 CTRY USA

Ils se sont mariés le 21 septembre 1907 à Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA, elle avait 23 ans.

Enfant(s):

1. Norma Pilcher  1908-± 1991 
2. Bessie Pauline Pilcher  1910-1943 
3. Robert Holm Pilcher  1912-2005 
4. Franklin Preble Pilcher  1914-1993 
5. (Ne pas publique)

Notes par Lily Marietta (Lily Marietta) "Etta" Holm

2 ADDR
3 STAE Minnesota
3 CTRY USA
2 ADDR
3 STAE Minnesota
3 CTRY USA

Death Certificate:
•Died at Asbury Park Hospital, Ward 5, as "Etta Pilcher."
•Cause of death: "Puerpural Septicemia" of 3 days duration.
•Signed by Glenn R. Motcham(? sp) MD
•Maiden name of mother was listed as "Unknown" but says she was born in Sweden.
•Informant was L.P. Pilcher (must be a misprint for F. P. Pilcher) of 2329 Irving? Avenue
Died 11 days after Don was born.

BIOGRAPHY: Notes for Lily (Lillie) Marietta "Etta" Holm:

According to Ann Johnson Pilcher, Etta died on Palm Sunday after giving birth to William Donald. Part of the afterbirth was stuck and she developed peritonitis (death certificate says she died in Asbury Hospital of puerperal septicemia). She asked her sister Hilma to raise the children, which she did. Etta's sister Ellen kept Don till he was about 2 years old, then Frank took him home again because he "had no children to give away" to Ellen, who wanted to adopt Don. [Ellen had another child, I believe, Valdene. She was like a sister to Don. Married Wally. Valdene died in 1993-4; Wally lives on the west coast of Florida.] Aunt Hilma died about 1930, on the day she got a letter from her boyfriend in Chicago about getting married, now that the kids were grown. There was one other sister Anna.

Lily Etta's former fiance, Eric Peterson, was at Nels Persson's funeral, and asked someone to point out Etta's children to him. Etta had been engaged to Eric Peterson at the time my grandfather Franklin P. Pilcher met her. Franklin broke up their relationship, she canceled the engagement and married Frank, for whom she worked. Ann Johnson Pilcher reports that Oscar Holm had a tough time accepting the fact that Etta had married a man, Frank, 23 years her senior, who was not only NOT SWEDISH, but also NOT LUTHERAN. Dad thinks that Frank and Etta may have been married at "Aunt Hanna's" home in St. Paul, because of opposition from the Holm family because Frank was "so old."

Norma says that she and Bessie were not given middle names, because Etta wanted "Pilcher" to be their middle names upon their marriage.

Etta wrote a 1904 letter to "Dear friend Prince," referring to King Trimble. It was written on German Stock Food Co. colorful letterhead and the tone indicates a fun woman with a great sense of humor. Refers to Mr. Pilcher having come in here last night.

In another typewritten! letter to him Sep 13 1904 she says she had a letter from "Toots." Who was that?/CP Refers to "new management" at the German Stock Food Co. (Would that be Frank Pilcher?/CP) She sounds happier. Perhaps King worked at GSFC for a while, and maybe that's where Etta got to know him.

A Dec 5 letter to King still refers to him as "Prince" in the letter but not the greeting. He apparently came to Mpls for a visit and didn't stop to see her. Left her a note and some work to do, and she sounded a little hurt.

Mar 8, 1905, letter to King says she very much enjoys roller skating at the rink since Xmas.

May 8, 1905, letter to King refers to herself as "a 35 year old maid." [She does this again in a later letter, and she is definitely NOT 35 years old, so I assume this is some sort of an "inside joke."/CP]
Says, "please do not talk so much about the rides you would give me 'were I there' [in Crown Point/CP] I do not think you would have the time. You seem awful busy for some reason or other. [I think Etta was smitten by King/CP]

July 25, 1905, letter to "Dear friend, King," indicates she just returned from ten days in Red Wing on her folks farm and five days in Ft. Dodge, Iowa. Tried fishing in Ft. Dodge, catching one "red horse." Hopes to go to Red Wing and stay a couple days with her sisters who are going "into camp this month." "I must keep on the good side of your Uncle Frank or he won't let me go to Red Wing." Mentions the log jam beyond Camden place because the "river hasn't been this high since 1897... People take nice little strolls across the river on the logs every day... Going to be blasted... Want to see that." Again mentions "sending you a snap-shot to-day of a 'thirty-five-year-old-maid.' Don't you think she is a pretty fine looker? Ha, ha."

In a letter to King, Aug 9, 1905, Etta again says, "How nice of you to write... to me,--an old maid of 35 years. I knew you would agreee with me and say it was a pretty nice looking old maid when you saw the picture. You know it is very seldom that one shall see an old maid, and with as little experience, nice looking. O yes, she found what she was looking for in the snap shot. It was only a penny, and that is about all she ever owned." Again is calling King, "Dear friend, Prince," with "Prince" underlined. Going to Red Wing next Saturday to go camping with sisters and rest of the family. "I want to stay a week, but it seems that good [underlined] uncle of yours, does not want me to, but says I must be back here tuesday evening. I guess I shall have to mind as I am not quite [underlined] of age yet." She goes on to say, "To-night, I am going to go and hear Mme. Hellstrom sing,--if you have had the pleasure of meeting her. She with 250 others sing at the Auditorium to-night. Of course, I am not a bit anxious to go, although it is something out of the ordinary. Besides, I am going for an automobile ride. A ha. Now, don't you think I am right in it? It is a real kind old [underlined] man that is going to take me for a drive, and are going to wind up by going to the concert. [Now, is this the first date of Frank and Etta?/CP] Asks for a snapshot of King, even though that's "not very nice, but then what's the harm?" "What are you doing... harvesting?... I could help milk cows if I had a pair of overalls to put on, especially, the ones you had down on Western Ave. O say, wasn't that crazy?" "Ed Nason thinks he's the 'whole cheese.' Dresses to kill, where the butcher kills to dress." "Your Uncle, Frank, has gone to lunch; consequently I am here all by my own lonesomeness."

11 July 1906 letter to King from Etta: Dear Friend King:-- I guess I will answer your letter before I go on my vacation... will not feel much like writing letters without this machine [typewriter]. Expect to go to Red Wing for one week... then out home on the farm for one week... FP went to the ball game this PM. I made a bet with him on Louisville, hope Louisville wins, although they lost yesterday. Made bets with him on three previous games and won, made a fourth and lost... Also bet on my weight today and he lost... Mpls is not much good... I saw them beat St. Paul the fourth. Oh, there was an awful mob, 9,800 tickets sold... When you buy a $1,000.00 cow, I will come and milk her. Perhaps you think I don't know how. Not only that, but I would do for a hired man, shocking grain, etc., too. Have done that considerable. You don't want to think I got my good muscle, good looks [underlined], etc. from sitting around and doing nothing. Your father was here last week. Looks... good, healthy and spry... With
kind regards, I remain, Yours truly, Etta.

21 July 1906 letter to Frank from Etta in Red Wing: My Dear Mr. Pilcher, ...my sister was curious to know what you wrote and there wasn't much for me to tell. She is the smartest one in the whole bunch so far. She said this AM she thinks I am a little too chummy with you. Annie said she thinks you are too old for me. They are certain I have someone in Mpls., but do not know who it is but have their suspicions. Tillie said I should never care to marry an old widower; they are worse than young men. I have not said much of anything. Nor has Will or Annie said anything about Wed night, which I was sure they would... [At Tillies]... expect to go out home this evening. [Worried about the two seated buggy being too crowded with sisters and their families]... I am going downtown to see my pictures which were promised me for today... [You] cannot write too often. Your letters are too interesting to them... [Have not been feeling well... headache... gone now]... Weighed myself Thursday morning when I left sister Annie's and was then 126 1/2 #... Will close with love to you. Etta.
I was dreadfully lonesome for you last evening and have just about had enough of my vacation. Shall be glad when I get back home where I feel the best. Consider yourself kissed by me when you have read this letter. E.

25 July 1906 letter from Etta in Red Wing to Frank in Mpls: My dear Mr. Pilcher, ... were so many, had to come in two rigs [out here]. Lewis (Tillie's husband) took his two horses... Monday morning next. Will leave Red Wing on the 1:28 train. Get to Mpls. about 3:45... did the ironing... it was rather hard on a "typist..." I am enjoying myself better here than at Red Wing because it is not so noisy here. The children bothered me so there... I am asked to seven different places but am not going to but one of those and that is to see Albert's girl... I have not seen Ed P. as not douby you are wondering whether I have... Yes indeed! I was very glad to hear from you and am carrying your letters around with me everywhere. Have read them all several times... Weather looks very bad here now, Raining thundering and lightening. It makes me think of Mrs. Tew [I sure am curious how Frank and Etta both seem to have this close relationship with Frank's ex-wife's parents/CP] I would like very much to write such a letter as you do but I can't. Am no good at it. All I will say is, I miss you and will be glad when I am back in Mpls again. These two weeks are so long. Why don't you send out whole Mpls selling SF [Stock Food/CP]. German has lots of money... Dutton and anderson N.G. but if you have the money and you can get Gillette, get him. You know Anderson can't do anything. If you send him out, keep the German clean and on the safe side... Mamma... has not mistrusted yet but they say so much about different things which touch upon my case to perfection... With love. Etta

27 July 1906 letter from Etta in Red Wing to Frank: ...Very glad to receive your letters, six, I think in all... See you have my picture to look at, or one similar... Last evening Albert took Hilma and me to see his girl. Got home at 12:30 this AM... Well, I have broke the news to Mamma and Hilma. Mamma said she does not think she will let me go back to Mpls. again. Much to my surprise, Mamma did not kick me out of the house entirely, but she is not satisfied with the way I meet him." I will tell you all about it when I see you Monday. Hilma has mistrusted since last summer when she was up to see me. [Was there something going on in summer of 1905 between Frank and Etta?/CP]... With love to you from Petty. [A pet name, I gather/CP]

4 April 1907 Pastor Bernhard Modiss (sp?) issued a "Letter of Dismission" to "Miss Lillie Mariette Holm," certifying that she was born in Vasa, MN 23 Mar 1884, was baptized in Vasa on 6 May 1884 and was confirmed in Vasa on 8 July 1900. Further, she was certified as being a member of the Swedish Evangelical Lutheran Vasa Church in Regular standing, and "is hereby recommended to the affectionate care and fellowship of any Evangelical Lutheran Church of the Augustana Synod.

13 Aug 1907 letter to Frank from Etta in Vasa: My darling sweetheart... I have been a very good girl since I left the city. have not been anywhere but to church Sunday... I prefer to stay at home and rest. I need it. This spell has taken me down worse than any other. My limbs are almost too weak to carry me. I cannot walk much. I was going to wipe dishes last evening but could not stand...having chicken... hope it will be good. Hope better than those we had when at Big Island Park... Just think, I have my fancy work almost done; have only one butterfly to work and then put the lace on... I think Wilson has got wise. He noticed my ring but did not say anything and he knows who the other party is... You ask, shall you insure the Book Accounts. Yes, if you won't lose anything by it but don't throw away another Three Hundred. I presume work is piling up and will keep me busy for a while when I get back... Have you seen or heard anything of Letourneau's... I have thought of you nearly every moment of the day and talk nice of you too. so have Mother and Hilma... Say, I would like you to go and see the doctor at Somerset, Wis., when you can... He might be able to help you... But I would like so much for you to be able to hear well... told Anna you would be down Saturday and we would go back together Sunday evening. I will be at the station to meet you (you old darling you) Saturday afternoon... All (not part of) my love to you. You may consider yourself kissed by your Petty.

15 Aug 1907 letter from Etta in Vasa to Frank: My dear Frank... I have made a "Floating Island" pudding for dinner. Looks first rate... Father works every day and last evening Hilda came to get Hilma so she is there sewing. Talked with her over the 'phone a few minutes ago... A hug and a squeeze, Bye Bye, Etty.

A card from Etta to Addie Trimble in Crown Pt., April 1909, refers to Andrew having come for a visit and going home early due to illness. The card is a colorized photo of Minnehaha Park, Mpls.

27 Sep 1909 letter to King in Crown Point from Etta: ...Thanks very much for the compliments paid Norma. It's not flattering me any as she don't look a particle like me. I sometimes wonder if I'm her mother. She is certainly a great girl. Understands nearly everything we say to her. Is in the dark about baseball as yet, but if Frank keeps on, Norma will know all about it in another month... We are in hopes of being able to make the trip [to see you in Crown Point] next summer. As it is, with baby little, it is hard to go anywhere for any length of time. Have been down home, also to Red Wing, but were tickled to death to get home each time... I go to the dentist this PM, a very pleasant task indeed...

Note: The next letter in the pile is dated four yearslater, Dec. 26, 1909. Etta says to King "it would sound real cute if I'd call you 'nephew', wouldn't it. Now you stop calling me 'Aunt' or I will pull your ear the first chance I have." "Carrie and Dias and one of my sisters and her little girl (would be Annie and Blanche or Pearl, or [more likely] Ellen and daughter Valdene) wee here yesterday...had turkey... ate too much... you must come for a visit this winter... It is a letter to Andrew Trimble from baby Norma, thanking him for his Christmas gift to her. Frank and Etta married in September, 1907, two years after the last letter above. Note: Norma wrote in 1961 that neither she nor Bessie were given middle names, as her mother wanted "Pilcher" to be their middle name when they got married.

Etta writes to King Jan 30 1910: "My dear Nephew, ...instead of being a good girl and going to church this A.M. I am going to stay home and write a couple or three letters... Am invited out to dine today... New Years Day had dinner with your sis and her hubby. We see them every week, they are either here or we are there... You come and see us. I'd bring your breakfast up to bed every morning... Frank says he is just too poor to come see you...I'd rather make that trip than any I know of, and I guess Frank would too...My brother is staying with us and doing the same work for the German that you used to... His wife came last night... Pretty soon all my folks will be here. Four girls and one boy here now. Have one sister in California.

Etta to King, Dec 1, 1910: ...our pretty girls. They look just like their daddy ["daddy" is underlined]... I don't hardly think you would have to tire yourself out walking the floor with either one of our babies. Pretty good babies, they are. Take after their mother, like to sleep... This keeping house and raising a family is quite different from keeping books or labeling packages. Haha... [Goes on about the chickens they are raising and how the squirrels got a couple and about 40 of the chickens got lice and died... Eggs are 37 cents a dozen here now and suppose they will be 40 cents before the holidays... Well,
guess this is enough about babies and chickens, the only think I have to write about these days. We will be down to see you before very long. Love to you and Addie.

Letter from Nellie Lyford to Carrie Trimble Ellis, Mar 26, 1911: ...I think Etta is a fine woman and makes a lovely mother. Was glad to find her quite firm with Norma, who I think is a little dear... I
intended to come home Monday but I had spent so little time with Etta that I stayed to visit with her and came home Tuesday... Etta was "laid up with a back ache, a bad one," April, 1911, according to a letter from Frank to King.

20 Sep 1913 postcard to Norma from Etta, mailed from Joliet, IL: How are you today Norma? Are you a real good girl and kind to little sister? We got here at 9:00 this morning. Robert behaved nicely on the train and has so far today... With love from Mother.

21 Sep 1913 postcard ["Guess who loves you"] from Etta to Norma mailed from Joliet: We will not get home until Friday A. M. Going to Bayly Pilcher's for dinner tomorrow. Yesterday were at Webbs, Carl's, Sue's and Hylands. Hope you are all well and having lots of fun. Mother

5 Feb 1916: Etta writes to Hilma in San Jose: "...expecting a phone call from Frank any minute. I am to meet him downtown... have so much sewing to do always and moreso this winter. You see Franklin's accident put me back six weeks... haven't much time left and it has worried me a little. I expect to have my party about the 15th of April, maybe a little sooner. Nellie will come again this time and look after my flock while I am confined to bed. She is such a dear woman... Well, Frank called and said he would meet me any time. We are going to look at a rug for the den, but that isn't saying we will buy. I'll write Tillie as soon as I can." [This was Etta's last letter according to Norma's notes on the envelope./CP]

31 Mar 1916 Etta writes a card to Hilma: "I'm like a balloon now. Feel good in the AM but bum at night. Next week is my week. I go to the hospital this time." [She died a few weeks later after giving birth to Undle Don, William Donald Pilcher./cp)

Etta died 11 days after Don was born

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